Comments on: Freedom And Independence For You And Me http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/ Tips, Tools, and Strategies, to Support Children With ADHD Sun, 15 Jan 2012 15:34:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Diana http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/comment-page-1/#comment-5354 Diana Sun, 05 Jul 2009 05:23:44 +0000 http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/#comment-5354 I am tied to a 9-5 job, and though I am very grateful for the work and the income, I would consider independence to be self-employed. I would like to run my own business from home. The greatness of our current times is that I CAN take steps to get that going. Thanks, Dr. Rory for the provocation to think about it, and put my answer here. I am tied to a 9-5 job, and though I am very grateful for the work and the income, I would consider independence to be self-employed. I would like to run my own business from home. The greatness of our current times is that I CAN take steps to get that going. Thanks, Dr. Rory for the provocation to think about it, and put my answer here.

]]> By: Cheryl http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/comment-page-1/#comment-5346 Cheryl Sat, 04 Jul 2009 22:20:23 +0000 http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/#comment-5346 I am not the traditional adhd although I think that there is a much more detailed and individual profile that may never be acknowledged, but should through an informed, literate and tolerant world "one-person-at-a-time. Many of your written opinions resound with my soul although I do not have the traditional adhd. I do have 2 sons, one with add (bio), and one with adhd (adopted from another country). Personally, I have felt alone my whole life searching for a close and profound soul relationship and recognizing in others that do not have it but hunger for it through inappropriate avenues. My adhd expresses itself through a poor mental map/sense of direction, a focus on the soul and the richness of a positive and soulful relationship. Through my search to assist my sons, I have seen the parallels between Autism and add/adhd. I understand that each person has unique gifts and hardships. I faced mine when I took Tae Kwon Do which required speed and a fantastic sense of direction and a quickness to pick up on the instructions. I struggled for 3 years and it made me feel my own children's struggle in add/adhd, each so unique,one gifted and one the most unique personality I have ever met in my life. And even though I have felt their struggle, as their mom, I still get stuck in my mom "rut". Your words, struggle and sensitivity resonate with me. Happy 4th!! I am not the traditional adhd although I think that there is a much more detailed and individual profile that may never be acknowledged, but should through an informed, literate and tolerant world “one-person-at-a-time. Many of your written opinions resound with my soul although I do not have the traditional adhd. I do have 2 sons, one with add (bio), and one with adhd (adopted from another country). Personally, I have felt alone my whole life searching for a close and profound soul relationship and recognizing in others that do not have it but hunger for it through inappropriate avenues. My adhd expresses itself through a poor mental map/sense of direction, a focus on the soul and the richness of a positive and soulful relationship. Through my search to assist my sons, I have seen the parallels between Autism and add/adhd. I understand that each person has unique gifts and hardships. I faced mine when I took Tae Kwon Do which required speed and a fantastic sense of direction and a quickness to pick up on the instructions. I struggled for 3 years and it made me feel my own children’s struggle in add/adhd, each so unique,one gifted and one the most unique personality I have ever met in my life. And even though I have felt their struggle, as their mom, I still get stuck in my mom “rut”. Your words, struggle and sensitivity resonate with me. Happy 4th!!

]]> By: Amy Price PhD http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/comment-page-1/#comment-5334 Amy Price PhD Sat, 04 Jul 2009 16:59:47 +0000 http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/#comment-5334 I agree that freedom counts and that for it to have meaning must be defined from the inside out. A lot of what we do is to please others and carve a place for ourselves to be loved. I most admire my late cat, she came into our lives as a stray and refused to leave or believe she was not wanted. Because of this we fed her loved her and appreciated her, she gave back by being herself. I have a PhD, (I am working on another one in cognitive neuroscience and executive function) but I only wish I was as smart as the cat! I like this quote ''Be Yourself. Everyone Else Is Taken! Always be yourself because the people that matter don't mind, and the ones who mind, don't matter" I admire your choice to say at home with your children, my son also did this but had to support them as well because his wife is not able and he keeps them but has to work outside as well. He has often mentioned that this was not an easy social choice as it was not clebrated by peers of either gender.... "Just because something doesn't do what you planned it to do doesn't mean it's useless" Thomas Edison. I agree that freedom counts and that for it to have meaning must be defined from the inside out. A lot of what we do is to please others and carve a place for ourselves to be loved.

I most admire my late cat, she came into our lives as a stray and refused to leave or believe she was not wanted. Because of this we fed her loved her and appreciated her, she gave back by being herself. I have a PhD, (I am working on another one in cognitive neuroscience and executive function) but I only wish I was as smart as the cat!

I like this quote ”Be Yourself. Everyone Else Is Taken! Always be yourself because the people that matter don’t mind, and the ones who mind, don’t matter”

I admire your choice to say at home with your children, my son also did this but had to support them as well because his wife is not able and he keeps them but has to work outside as well. He has often mentioned that this was not an easy social choice as it was not clebrated by peers of either gender….

“Just because something doesn’t do what you planned it to do doesn’t mean it’s useless” Thomas Edison.

]]> By: Rachel http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/comment-page-1/#comment-5320 Rachel Sat, 04 Jul 2009 04:25:29 +0000 http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/#comment-5320 I am so thankful to have discovered this website recently (yesterday in fact). Reading this really spoke to me! In particular, the paragraph starting with "Today I celebrate a different freedom." As a homeschooling mother of 3 kids with various struggles (ADHD, SPD, possible APD), I have to remind myself that my children will never fit into the "mold" that other kids might. I am learning, daily, to find freedom as I observe my kids fighting and struggling against the things that cause their bodies to act and react "abnormally". I am so proud of them, and also proud of myself as I learn more and more to let go of others' opinions of my children. They have taught me so much and I'm grateful for the gift they have become! I am so thankful to have discovered this website recently (yesterday in fact). Reading this really spoke to me! In particular, the paragraph starting with “Today I celebrate a different freedom.” As a homeschooling mother of 3 kids with various struggles (ADHD, SPD, possible APD), I have to remind myself that my children will never fit into the “mold” that other kids might. I am learning, daily, to find freedom as I observe my kids fighting and struggling against the things that cause their bodies to act and react “abnormally”. I am so proud of them, and also proud of myself as I learn more and more to let go of others’ opinions of my children. They have taught me so much and I’m grateful for the gift they have become!

]]> By: Mary http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/comment-page-1/#comment-5309 Mary Fri, 03 Jul 2009 21:22:52 +0000 http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/#comment-5309 Happy 4th! The signers of the declaration of independence were very radical guys - as anti-monarchists, they even used playing cards whose face cards had pictures of american indians, colonial heroes, and figures from greek mythology, rather than the traditional kings and queens. Americans have a tradition of finding their own freedom in the face of very strong resistance. I hope we can do the same for ourselves, and find the freedom to use our strengths - create our own playing cards - that feature pictures of creativity, spontaneity, intuition, flexibilty, compassion, humor, and kindness. Happy 4th! The signers of the declaration of independence were very radical guys – as anti-monarchists, they even used playing cards whose face cards had pictures of american indians, colonial heroes, and figures from greek mythology, rather than the traditional kings and queens. Americans have a tradition of finding their own freedom in the face of very strong resistance. I hope we can do the same for ourselves, and find the freedom to use our strengths – create our own playing cards – that feature pictures of creativity, spontaneity, intuition, flexibilty, compassion, humor, and kindness.

]]> By: Ramona http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/comment-page-1/#comment-5294 Ramona Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:33:48 +0000 http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/freedom-and-independence-for-you-and-me/#comment-5294 Dr. Roy's comments and "thank-fulls" cover so many of my feelings and emotions in terms of acceptance, understanding, etc. More than that, I am thankful that I can help pursue a disease that took my mother in 2008 - ALS. A hideous disease that literally steals your life and body, one piece at a time, leaving your brain intact. On top of that, she suffered from AADD, undiagnosed, but clearly so. I am active because she couldn't be. I am focused because she wasn't, and I am grateful for the independence of good health and expanding knowledge and support for both illnesses. I appreciate every moment the ability to think, plan and reach out as I need to to accomplish my goals. Thank you, for creating this site. Happy Fourth of July! Dr. Roy’s comments and “thank-fulls” cover so many of my feelings and emotions in terms of acceptance, understanding, etc. More than that, I am thankful that I can help pursue a disease that took my mother in 2008 – ALS. A hideous disease that literally steals your life and body, one piece at a time, leaving your brain intact. On top of that, she suffered from AADD, undiagnosed, but clearly so. I am active because she couldn’t be. I am focused because she wasn’t, and I am grateful for the independence of good health and expanding knowledge and support for both illnesses. I appreciate every moment the ability to think, plan and reach out as I need to to accomplish my goals. Thank you, for creating this site.

Happy Fourth of July!

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