Comments on: Children With ADHD Crave Attention http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/children-with-adhd-crave-attention/ Tips, Tools, and Strategies, to Support Children With ADHD Sun, 15 Jan 2012 15:34:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: marcyCC http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/children-with-adhd-crave-attention/comment-page-1/#comment-20810 marcyCC Tue, 06 Jul 2010 22:55:26 +0000 http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/?p=300#comment-20810 I also wanted to add the she constantly stares at me. Mostly at dinner, when we watched a movie the other day, I sat on the couch & she laid on the floor ahead of me and she looked back & stared at me 10 times. She also will just stand there while I make dinner, expressionless, and stare. Its quite uncomfortable as well as annoying. Whenever I ask her why she looks dumbfounded. From talking with her I come to realize that her mother doesn't pay much attention to her on a daily basis, doesn't let her get involved in kids activities (sports, art class, etc.) & gossips to her like they are "adult friends" about the mothers friends. I can only do/say so much w/o offending both parents. I also don't know what to do about responding to the child in a way that would be most beneficial to her. I also wanted to add the she constantly stares at me. Mostly at dinner, when we watched a movie the other day, I sat on the couch & she laid on the floor ahead of me and she looked back & stared at me 10 times. She also will just stand there while I make dinner, expressionless, and stare. Its quite uncomfortable as well as annoying. Whenever I ask her why she looks dumbfounded. From talking with her I come to realize that her mother doesn’t pay much attention to her on a daily basis, doesn’t let her get involved in kids activities (sports, art class, etc.) & gossips to her like they are “adult friends” about the mothers friends. I can only do/say so much w/o offending both parents. I also don’t know what to do about responding to the child in a way that would be most beneficial to her.

]]> By: marcyCC http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/children-with-adhd-crave-attention/comment-page-1/#comment-20807 marcyCC Tue, 06 Jul 2010 22:11:41 +0000 http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/?p=300#comment-20807 I am experiencing an "attention hungary" child in my boyfriends 10 year old daughter. She visits during the summer for 2+ months. Although I realize it is a "special" time that she gets with her father, there just never seems to be an end to her wanting constant attention. He will spend the whole day with her, just the 2 of them, and when they walk in the door she is just as needy as ever. Although he is eager to please her, I can see my boyfriend is frustrated as well as exhausted with her. She is also constantly in between us as far as conversations go. She either cuts us off or finishes our sentences. And when we have guests, she wants to be right in the middle of the adults conversations to hear everything instead of playing with the other kids. She then repeats everything to her mother or other relatives. Not that we have anything to hide but its just the fact that she's doing it & the constant attention craving that has me concerned for her future well-being as well as ready to run from her anytime I cannot deal with the lack of privacy. I am experiencing an “attention hungary” child in my boyfriends 10 year old daughter. She visits during the summer for 2+ months. Although I realize it is a “special” time that she gets with her father, there just never seems to be an end to her wanting constant attention. He will spend the whole day with her, just the 2 of them, and when they walk in the door she is just as needy as ever. Although he is eager to please her, I can see my boyfriend is frustrated as well as exhausted with her. She is also constantly in between us as far as conversations go. She either cuts us off or finishes our sentences. And when we have guests, she wants to be right in the middle of the adults conversations to hear everything instead of playing with the other kids. She then repeats everything to her mother or other relatives. Not that we have anything to hide but its just the fact that she’s doing it & the constant attention craving that has me concerned for her future well-being as well as ready to run from her anytime I cannot deal with the lack of privacy.

]]> By: betsy davenport, phd http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/children-with-adhd-crave-attention/comment-page-1/#comment-1353 betsy davenport, phd Wed, 25 Feb 2009 04:43:07 +0000 http://thetruthbehindadhd.com/?p=300#comment-1353 Interesting you should discuss this. It was the very fact of my increasing difficulty in being with (attention) my child that pressed me toward medication treatment for her. Impulsively, she would whack me in the leg, the back, whatever body part was nearest, every time I passed by her. Not enough to hurt, not motivated by anger, she just did it. A moving target asking for contact, I suppose. She knew I didn't like it, she was immediately sorry, then even embarrassed, for she truly was unhable to stop herself soon enough, in that infinitesimal space of time between the impulse and the deed. I found myself giving her a wide berth around the house. It was increasingly hard to have a reasonable go at reading before bedtime, something she had always loved, still did, but moved around way too much to make it work. There were many such things -- the things parents and children do all the time which engender closeness, understanding, security, etcetera. I was pretty sure what she "had," and felt it was only a matter of time before her own agonies would be more important as cues for treatment than those of other people (teachers, etc.). In fact, my exasperation and hers coincided in time and we did the conservative, medical thing. Ten years have passed, and no one is sorry for that. Sorry it is necessary, but grateful such treatment is possible in this day and age. Interesting you should discuss this. It was the very fact of my increasing difficulty in being with (attention) my child that pressed me toward medication treatment for her.

Impulsively, she would whack me in the leg, the back, whatever body part was nearest, every time I passed by her. Not enough to hurt, not motivated by anger, she just did it. A moving target asking for contact, I suppose.

She knew I didn’t like it, she was immediately sorry, then even embarrassed, for she truly was unhable to stop herself soon enough, in that infinitesimal space of time between the impulse and the deed.

I found myself giving her a wide berth around the house. It was increasingly hard to have a reasonable go at reading before bedtime, something she had always loved, still did, but moved around way too much to make it work.

There were many such things — the things parents and children do all the time which engender closeness, understanding, security, etcetera.

I was pretty sure what she “had,” and felt it was only a matter of time before her own agonies would be more important as cues for treatment than those of other people (teachers, etc.).

In fact, my exasperation and hers coincided in time and we did the conservative, medical thing. Ten years have passed, and no one is sorry for that. Sorry it is necessary, but grateful such treatment is possible in this day and age.

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