ADHD Debate: Have You Taken A Side?

I almost titled this post, “Are You Passionate Enough About Success?”  But the more I thought about my message today – the more I realized it’s NOT necessarily about success.  It’s about taking a side – and being passionate about that side.

Too Many People Sit On The Fence

A mentor of mine really pushes people to make a commitment, Yes I am interested or No, I am not.  Either way, he just wants to be involved with people who can make a decision and NOT sit on the fence.

>>>>That’s what today’s post is about!<<<<

There are a lot of debates amongst society, and within the ADHD community, about ADHD as a diagnosis

  • Gift versus Curse
  • Whole Vs. Part
  • Medication Vs. Alternatives
  • Doctors Vs. Parents
  • Diagnosis Vs. Condition
  • And I’m Sure Many More…

Where you stand on these debates doesn’t so much matter to me, as long as you are passionate about your side of the argument.

Let me clarify that…  My personal view is to approach differences in people, and to help them get the supports, resources, tools, and strategies to be successful in life.  I don’t believe ADHD is a gift nor do I believe it is a curse. Instead, I actually believe that is a part of who the person is – and with the right supports, tools, resources, etc… a person with ADHD can be just as successful as anyone else.

Now this approach upsets some people, and at the same time, it hits home for other people.

That’s What We’re Talking About

We will all have different opinions about ADHD.  That’s just life when it comes to a condition that is hotly contested, debated, and largely quite misunderstood.

For me, I’ll engage in conversation and debate with anyone about ADHD as a condition so long as they are informed and provide support to people, rather than striking them down.

Beyond that, we can agree to disagree.

And That’s What I Want For You

People who are successful in life, and in managing their challenges are very passionate or at least strongly opinionated about their perspective on things.

So if you are struggling to figure out how ADHD is impacting yourself, your child, a spouse, loved one, or friend — I’m going to ask you to find a side and get involved.

There’s nothing more dangerous than sitting on the fence and going back and forth.  It just leads to confusion, blaming, and negativity all around…

What Do You Believe?

I want to hear from you!  Please let me know where you stand on the great debates of ADHD.  Tell me what really gets you passionate about living with ADHD, struggling with ADHD, or supporting someone with ADHD.

Even if I don’t agree with you, show me your passion and I’ll respect what you have to say!

PS. – Will you join me for the next ADHD Family Teleseminar?  This Sunday we will be talking about ADHD Co-existing Conditions And Complications!

Twitter Digg Delicious Stumbleupon Technorati Facebook Email

2 Responses to “ADHD Debate: Have You Taken A Side?”

  1. My mom(77)me(53)my sons(29,26,19)all have ADHD. IT IS IN THE GENES! My friends have ADHD. I attract them like magnets! I am wanting to self improve my relationship with family and friends and want mentally healthy tools to help make life EASIER,richer and fuller. I live with my sons 26 and 19. They want to kill each other! Both are good guys but the frustration is killing me as I don’t know how to help focus the positive energy to create peace in my home. Thank you for the work you are doing. When my boys were little the Dr gave them retlain pills. We are all adults now drugs do not work. Behaviors need changing. Help is needed.I will be listening to all your solutions and help. I am willing to do the hard work it takes to get thru this as you do not out grow it. I look foward to all your tools! Thank you.

  2. If you had asked me three years ago if I had ADHD, I would’ve laughed. It’s a legitimate disorder, in my opinion, and one that receives a lot of negative criticism from all sides. But it wasn’t until I was halfway through my freshman year in high school that I agreed to talk to a psychologist. My home life has always been excellent, and my family is the best I could ver ask for. Despite this, the psychologist diagnosed me with a fairly moderate case of ADHD.
    I get bored very easily, which can hinder my progress in difficult Advanced Placement classes. I’ve noticed the littlest impulses throughout my life; the ‘what-if’s’ and ‘why-nots’ that always kept me up at night. There is no doubt in my mind that my brain is simply wired differently, which I can’t do much about.
    I will always take responsibility for my actions; using ADHD as an excuse is just selfish, in my opinion, and it makes people who try their hardest to deal with it look worse in comparison. I prefer not to tell my peers or teachers about it unless I truly need help, mainly because I’ve felt a bit of prejudice before when someone’s attempt to help actually made it worse for a time. I don’t say that I “suffer” from ADHD, because that’s untrue. I deal with it every day, and I find no honor or glory in that fact; everyone has problems to deal with. Mine is ADHD.
    To those who believe ADHD isn’t real, for whatever reason, I respect your opinions, though I strongly urge you to take a second look at what may have led you to this conclusion. Was there a person in your class who got out of punishment by using inattentiveness as an excuse? What about someone who tried to explain their behavior towards others with ADHD? I’ve seen the latter, and there are plenty more examples I could pull in.
    While I do take Vyvanse and find that it helps me focus better, I personally believe that taking medicine should be a choice for the child to think about when they’re old enough to understand, depending on how it affects their school life and such. Until then, just trying to work through it is the best option I can think of. I’m just a sophomore in high school right now, but someday I hope to find a better way to deal with ADHD and possibly even use it to my advantage.
    Thanks for the opportunity to speak about this on a more personal level.